There you are at a social event. People are everywhere. You came to talk and meet people. Business. Pleasure. Doesn't matter. There you are and you want to have a conversation with someone.
Now is usually when the nerves set in and you speak up or you stand next to the wall.
What often happens is that we break through this fear and do have conversations. BUT THEN WE ARE LEFT WITH A FEELING OF EMPTINESS REALIZING THAT YOU DIDN'T REALLY CONNECT WITH ANYONE ON A DEEP LEVEL.
So you think about that and decide that it could be you, but likely it was THAT party, THOSE people....and it wasn't worth your time to return.
And on it goes.
Emotional intelligence is understanding that the responsibility for how you experience your life is entirely up to you. It is not what happens, it is how you handle it, Plan C Strategies Number 3.
Begin at the beginning with a question:
Why are you going to this social event? Have a focus. Not a goal. Not an outcome.
With your focus in mind, breathe in, breathe out, smile and ask yourself:
What is one question I like to be asked?
Write it down.
What is one thing you want to share at this event?
Write it down.
Now, go to the event. Breathe in, breathe out and smile.
Stand still. The next person to stand next to you, smile, introduce yourself, ask their name and ask your question.
Tell them the one thing you want to share.
And listen. And breathe in and out. And smile.
Asking questions and listening, showing up and sharing a bit about yourself, breathing in and out and smiling are tools that create connected conversations.
Which is what we all desire when we show up.