TRADITION, TRADITION! - Fiddler on the Roof
Nodal events are times in life that have huge impact on people. They are traditions within a culture that are adapted by most of the population that take on enormous meaning. Nodal events are when you are born, when you die, when you get married, and the holidays and celebrations that cycle us through from one year to the next.
BUT WHAT DO WE DO IN 2020 WHEN EVERYTHING IS UPSIDE DOWN AND THE PANDEMIC IS RAGING IN THE US AND AROUND THE WORLD????
In 1990, when I first was interviewed about handling the stress of the holidays, what I discussed was how to handle the traditions as best as possible. Setting boundaries. Understanding that gathering will be time consuming. Families will tangle and some might have fights.
But (and even back then, the truth came after the "but") while I offered that people had the choice to decide to do whatever THEY wanted for the holidays, most people wanted to know how to handle the holidays without changing any of the traditions.
For you, in 2020, who are worried about how to handle the holidays, YOU HAVE THE CHOICE THIS YEAR TO DECIDE HOW YOU TRULY DESIRE TO HANDLE the holidays. It's not the number of people...it's the day and how do you want to create a day for those who are closest to you NOW?
DECEMBER 31, 2020
What is it that has the most meaning for you for each of those days...that Sunday...that Thursday...oh and that other Thursday....oh and that other Thursday? In the months of October and November and December of this year, 2020?
How to get high eq for the holidays?
1. Breathe in and breathe out and calm your reactions that you have to do the holidays a certain way.
2. Smile and lift up the natural chemicals in your body that increase a sense of well being.
3. It's not what is happening. It's how I handle it.
4. Identify and define what you value MOST about the holidays.
5. All of your actions are reflections and expressions of what you value most about the holidays.
And, not matter what, wear a mask.
Socially distance with only a few people outside.
Wash your hands.